STIGMA is one of most deeply embedded word in our society . We hear a lot of stigmas about religion, about caste, about colours and so on and each one of us feels free to protest with all our wits to break free our society from such annoying taboos.
However have we ever thought about the stigma of periods?
I think there are very few people around who feel free to talk about menstruation in public. In fact very few girls in our society are vocal about them. But I never understand the reason why bleeding every month is considered as a shame, why a menstruating woman ( especially in utmost pain) is considered as impure?
I totally agree with this fact that we live in a judgemental , conservative and fearful society where if anyone hears about menstruation they start attaching labels and try to make it look awkward .For example: if you go to purchase a sanitary pad they will always give it to you in a special black polythene and that too so hesitantly , This is the most illogical thing I have ever seen.
And I strongly believe that there are very few royal ( lucky) households where these following senseless myths about periods are not followed. ~~
1) – Firstly , If you are menstruating then you are not allowed to worship god or undertake any religious activity .
2 ) Secondly , If you are bleeding then you should maintain distance from everyone and yes , especially from the male members of your family. In some highly conservative households it is even mandatory for menstruating girls to sleep on a separate bed or use a dark coloured separate bed sheet and in fact what is most humorous is that they even decide a particular sleeping position for her.
3) Thirdly and one of the most annoying myth is If you are having period cramps then you should suffer in silence & not disclose or share the reason behind it at any cost.
4) Fourthly, If you are in periods then you should not run , jump or do anything that involves a lot of physical exertion just because there are chances of your clothes getting stained with blood and that would bring disgrace to the entire family.
This isn’t the end , There are many such uncountable myths exist . But you know what the truth is that those who follow these taboos they don’t even know the reason behind them . What is most astonishing is , some people know that these myths are totally senseless yet they will conform with others because of the fear that bad luck from nowhere would befall upon them.
Like seriously I am shook sometimes to see such mentality. In fact there are many people who very proudly call them as so called ‘scientific’ but when it comes to saving their sisters , mothers or wives from entering and following such taboos blindly they become numb about it .What is the use of being highly qualified with having a doctorate degree when you just can’t be vocal about such disgusting stigmas that are deteriorating the mindset of our entire community?
Why people are so negative about this thing.?. It’s a totally natural phenomenon and we , humans have no control over it .What is so weird about it? It’s absolutely the same blood that comes out when there is a cut on your hand , same blood that is flowing though your arteries,Exactly the same blood that your heart is pumping , And insanely the same blood that you encourage others to donate! So why this vaginal bleeding is treated with so much of shame and that too such an extent that a girl feels totally degraded and listless for a thing that is being endowed to her by the almighty. !
I just want you to please realise that your education only pays off when you bring a change into your coward mentality and make all your efforts to bring a best of change in our society.
PERIODS ARE NO SHAME MY FRIENDS. Menstruation is not a time to maintain a distance from your sister , mother or your wife , it’s a time to give your utmost attention and care to them . Those 6-7 days are really stressful as her body is undergoing many harmonal changes therefore it’s a time to empathise with her rather then making her feel helpless. .. It’s a time to understand her mood swings & let her feel normal about it .
I hope we can do our bits to make this change and break free from all the myths. After all when you change , the world will automatically change.